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Well, it’s come and gone, the “most romantic day of the year.” Hopefully you were as pleased with the culmination of the day, but I ask you – what now? How do we (referring to any and all committed couples) keep the romance alive the rest of the year?
While there are probably a myriad of ways to do this – one sure fire MUST for keeping romance alive the other 364 days of the year includes what happens “between the sheets.”
On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being extremely sexually adventurous and a one being a complete PRUDE… I consider myself right around a 4 – cautiously adventurous within the confines of my own home and a committed relationship.
When a good friend invited me to a “Slumber Party” I was equal parts nervous, embarrassed and excited. I said I would go, prior to checking out the website of products… which turned out to be a very intimidating array of sexual enhancement products – most of which would be in a store or down an aisle I would never allow myself to even glance at.
This being said, I had told my friend I would go, and I have to admit I was extremely curious. So, when she BACKED OUT only a couple of hours prior to the party, I had no choice but to call my up-for-anything friend and see if she wanted to go, which being up-for-anything she of course did – even though she too had never been to anything like this before.
The particular Slumber Party that I was attending was at Lisa C’s house as a type of end-of-year open house thank you for her past hosts (this really precluded me from attendance, but Lisa C. welcomed my friend and I into her home none the less.) Prior to her version of a “tupperware presentation” we perused the six racks of lingerie, a avoided the three large displays of other products.
I knew Lisa C through an alternative venue, so she greeted us warmly, invited us to have some snacks (shrimp, yum!) and wine, and to make ourselves at home prior to the product show. We found seats and began to peruse the catalogs – at this point, both of us were feeling more comfortable – feeling that only further developed throughout the evening.
Lisa C.’s show did not include any lingerie, but was actually more of a combo of a girls’ night out with good friends and an informative sex education class. She calls herself a “Romance Specialist” which she says sounds much better than “dildo lady.” This type of rapport both engaged and eased the group of ladies who had gathered – most of whom had been to at least one of her parties prior to this.
Her presentation was charming and funny and truly eliminated potential awkwardness that has previously been the hallmark of any experiences I had with this type of product. Lest you think I am only talking about battery operated “toys,” I guarantee you – much to my surprise – there were a plethora of other products also designed to enhance romance that were much less intimidating in nature.
This being said, by the time the evening was over – I was feeling much more at ease with the entire party and product line for several reasons. For starters, Lisa C. assured and re-assured everyone at the party that all of her parties are like Las Vegas – what happens here, stays here. I was further convinced of this when she alluded that not one, not two, but THREE of my co-workers had hosted parties only ONE of which I knew about. (…and trust me, I am a total spy and would pride myself on finding out these type of things!)
Discretion is key, even within the party. When you place a order, you meet one on one with Lisa in a private room and all of your products are placed in an opaque black Slumber Party bag, so even the other party attendees don’t know what you purchased.
By the time I placed my substantial – but still on the prudish side, all things considered – order, I felt my status moving to a 5 or a 6 on our sexual adventure scale!
Upon returning home, my husband couldn’t wait to hear about the party and my purchases. The conversation alone served as adequate foreplay for several evenings. We then proceeded to try each product one by one over the course of the next few days. Let it be said, there was no shortage of romance for the subsequent weeks. (Especially after he received his birthday gift about a month later … let’s just say playground equipment isn’t only meant to be outdoors!)
My thoughts –10 years into my marriage – if you are in a monogamous sexual relationship and plan, as I do, to be in that relationship for countless more years …sometimes you need to mix things up and keep them interesting, and Slumber Parties by Lisa C. can be one avenue to make this happen.
This being said, no product – regardless of how it is touted (ie “The Rabbit” on an infamous Sarah Jessica Parker show), can provide the satisfaction, romance and sustainable relationship glue without a foundation of communication and creativity…but I am here to attest that they can help!
In the vein of Slumber Party discretion… I will only sign off as – a satisfied chambanamom.
PS… for anyone who is wondering, everyone is fully clothed at these parties, and there are no pillow fights. (Sorry to burst your bubble boys!)